Back-to-School Made Easy: Preschool Prep Tips for Parents
By Veronica Kelly, Tiger Lily Preschool Learning
Starting preschool or daycare is a big milestone—not just for kids, but for parents too. For many little ones, it’s their first time being away from home in a structured setting, and it can bring up lots of big feelings (for everyone!). The good news is, there are simple ways to help your child feel prepared and confident as they begin this exciting new chapter.
Before we dive in, I want to note that these tips apply to MANY situations and a wide age range – from 2 year olds to 8 year olds and beyond.
Here are some tips to smooth the transition (from an experienced preschool teacher, parent educator and mama):
Take a Drive-By:
Before the first day, drive or walk by your child’s school together. Point out the playground, the front doors, or anything that will feel familiar when you return. This makes the school building less mysterious and helps kids know what to expect.
Talk About School (Often and Positively):
Bring school into everyday conversation. You might say, “At school, you’ll get to paint and play with new friends” or “Your teacher will be there to help you if you need anything.” The more you normalize the idea, the more comfortable it feels.
Read Books About Going to School
Stories are powerful tools for young children. Books like Time for School, Mouse by Laura Numeroff or Daniel Goes to School by Becky Friedman open up conversations about feelings, routines, and the fun of school. Reading together allows your child to see that their feelings are normal—and that school can be a wonderful adventure. Check out my “Going to School” booklist on bookshop.org - https://bookshop.org/lists/going-to-school
I’ve also got a book list specifically for separation anxiety: https://bookshop.org/lists/managing-separation-anxiety
Practice the Morning Routine
Try a few “practice mornings” before school starts. Wake up, get dressed, eat breakfast, and pack up—just like a real school day. When the first day arrives, the routine will feel more familiar and less overwhelming.
Role-Play Drop-Offs
If your child is nervous about saying goodbye, practice with imaginative play at home. You can take turns being the “grown-up” and the “kid.” Practice a short goodbye routine and then a joyful reunion after. This helps your child learn that goodbyes are temporary and parents always come back. You can use stuffed animals, action figures or yourselves!
Support Separation Anxiety with Calm Confidence:
Your child looks to you for cues. If you model calm, confident goodbyes—even when your heart feels wobbly—they’re more likely to “catch your confidence.” Keep drop-offs short and sweet: a hug, a reassurance (“You’re safe, and I’ll be back after snack time”), and then go. Lingering can actually make it harder for both of you.
Final Thoughts:
Starting school is a big step, and it’s natural for kids (and parents!) to feel a mix of excitement and worry. Some kids need extra support starting every school year even if it’s not a new school. By preparing ahead of time, building familiarity, and modeling confidence, you can help your child start school with a sense of safety and joy. And remember, change takes time to get used to. Be patient with your child and yourself. I’ll be over here cheering you on!
Want extra support with how to help your child with this transition? Book a consultation and get tailored support and strategies for your family. https://www.tigerlilyschool.com/work-with-us
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: VERONICA KELLY
Veronica is the owner/founder of Tiger Lily Preschool & early learning resource: We are a half-day preschool located in North Seattle/Shoreline. We also offer resources for families and caregivers including coaching and parent education.
Veronica is a member of the Heybrook Provider Network. You can find all of our incredible go-to-experts here!